3 Things to do when it is hard to get started

“It is a busy day,have had a packed week,its been a crazy month”sounds familiar right? That is why you never started that blog,you never started exercising ,you never started that business,you never started that book,and the list goes on,suddenly you realize the year is gone and then you feel, -well- I will pick it up next year,after all it was not urgent,it can wait! … The more I think about it, the more I realize that so many of us myself included often think this way at some level.

No Excuses

Without realizing this kind of a talk becomes an habit that is hard to break and you go explaining why you didn’t, couldn’t, shouldn’t or just wouldn’t do something.

To get to where you want go or to at least to achieve your goals,you need discipline and motivation.Have struggled a lot with this until one of mentor Bindu Krishnan the brain behind 90rollsroyces told me “It doesn’t have be perfect just do it” I once described her advice in this blog post. We need to be able to overcome the mental blocks that we think we have and just get started. But the simple task of starting something can seem daunting if you don’t approach it with the right mindset

Being stuck is a position few of us like. We want something new but cannot let go of the old – old ideas, beliefs, habits, even thoughts. We are out of contact with our own genius. Sometimes we know we are stuck; sometimes we don’t. In both cases we have to DO something”.

Rush Limbaugh

If you feel stuck,here is a list of three things you can do to get going :

  • Start Small

Small things become big things. Focus on small steps, they are wonderful events on their own.When I first started my blog in 2017 ,I would take almost 6 months before posting anything on the blog..I was always in the preparation mode.But what have learned is doing it now ,and keeping it simple. Do not wait for tomorrow,do not wait for things to get perfect.Sometimes we want to see the end result before getting started but the most important thing is just to get started

  • Stop living other peoples life

You are very different,dont base your decision on what everyone is doing.There is nothing wrong being different. Probably what you have been keeping aside for years could be a result of fear…”what will people think,what will people say,what if i fail”you have heard this right.If you are reading this am sure you want to get moving and forget what everyone thinks about you.KUDOS you are taking a road less traveled.Throwing away your value and your uniqueness to please everyone is very cruel.Celebrate your life for doing what you love,experiment and have fun

  • Let go

You cannot control everything that happens in your life.Do not worry about what you have not achieved today.Focus on now.This is the only opportunity you have not yesterday and not tomorrow .Accept the way things are at the moment,sometimes things dont always go the way we plan ,but dont stay on the ground so long,dust yourself and getting moving

3 Great ways to overcome fear

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Most people associate failure with complete defeat. I know, because I’ve failed countless times over. In fact, at one point,I almost felt like a professional failure.You know those days,weeks ,months that nothing literally is moving and everything goes haywire,yeah those days you fell a sense of total and absolute defeat.

Robert Kanaat once said “When we fail, we learn. We grow and mature, achieving new understandings and perspectives on life, love, business, money, relationships, and people. We’re forced to make new connections, bridging gaps where we hadn’t connected the dots before”

Something shifts as we grow older…I remember when I was a child we used to play with clay and if something wasn’t working we will not dwell on it ,we will move to the next item… as a matter of fact we never wasted time worrying or analyzing what went wrong: We  jumped right into a new game or modeling.Now understand why Thomas was right when he said;

Go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can, because that’s where you will find success: on the far side of failure.”

 – Thomas J. Watson,

 Of course failure will come with it’s bundle of lessons,from experience, growth to resilience.Maybe it’s time failure should start receiving  its proper recognition as a key that unlocks innovation and possibilities. Viewing our failures through a positive lens can teach us to evolve and innovate.

If handled well failure can be a stepping stone to greater things.Sadly enough, not many people see it that way. Failure in our society are shamed instead of celebrated.The best part is our mistakes have important lessons to teach us.

But how can we recover from failure and keep going?

Here are three ways you can consider today..

1) – Ignore the Naysayers

 When you fail, of course there will be a class of people telling you, “I told you so,” “You should have listened to me.This reminds me of how sometimes we yell to our children the same way when they mess up .”You know those moments right!

Ignore the Naysayers…After all living a life that’s completely safe all the time, isn’t really living

2) Take responsibility

 We waste alot of time trying to analyze who did what and look for a place to pass blame..At that moment its a relief but eventually it will rob you the joy of moving forward and picking up pieces.

Understand the chain of events that led to your failure and disconnect yourself from the chain if possible…take a different route if that is what will bring you peace but don’t stop either keep moving.

 3) You are not the only one

 Failure can make us feel isolated and lead you to think you are the only person who makes mistakes.Having successes doesn’t mean you’re great, having failures doesn’t mean you’re bad either..Take a big breath, failure happens to everyone.

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The Choices We Make


Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.” -Robert Bennett

Every single minute in life , we make choices. This is both a great truth and a hard lesson because it reminds us of our own power. Not power over others, but the hidden, untapped power to be our best and live out our dreams.Every single thing you do everyday, you’re creating your future.Little things become big things. Always!

Sometimes have found myself in some situations that forced me to ask…”Will the future be happy with the choice you’re about to make?”some small choices everyday don’t seem to be anything but if you combine them together you realize how they have impacted your life negatively or positively…

A few years ago,I had a discpline of what to eat,drink,read etc…after I got married and had my baby afew things changed and got into some small a bit of eating some sweet stuff during the day,the energy boost felt awesome!.. after all I thought to myself…it’s just once every day…but before I knew it ,it was an habit that become hard to break.My hundreds of poor small choices had become a powerful routine…it took more than year to go back to my usual routine… Choices can be costly!

The only way to change that negative outcome is to come back to the present moment, be fully mindful of it, and make good decisions.For instance,why should you stay in a job you dislike, and live in constant dissatisfaction,walk in every morning for years without any fulfilment…how will it benefit you in the long run?..may be you are waiting to make that big choice…but remember, someone once said ,smaller choices are far more powerful in the long run than big choices right now.Even if you make occasional great big choices, you won’t achieve success if you consistently make poor small choices

We don’t need magic to turn things around,
-Jim Rohn once said “Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals.”
It may be difficult, frustrating, and humbling to develop and grow. But if you stick to it, you’ll eventually reach bigger successes.The only big problem is when we confuse success to mean material things other than living a fulfilled life..which in the process lead us to make wrong choices at the cost of our lives and others.

It is our choices that determine our experiences. The choices we are making today will show up in our experiences in the future.Applying basic fundamentals over time is boring.But it’s extremely effective and it’s the only way to freedom.

Discpline I meet you again

Sometimes I find myself contemplating to stop🚥 or to continue doing something … probably because am not getting the results I need as fast as I need them…talk of impatience😜…you know that feeling of wanting to wake up one day and Boom!!….things have happened💪……

Overtime have learned that life is a journey👣, things don’t just happen and that is the harsh reality… Everything requires a lot of discpline, and you can achieve very little without it…

This morning as I was listening to our Bishop Tom Arati preach about Spiritual discpline I realized that I still have a long way to go…you know those days you wake up⏰ to pray 🙏and your mind go wandering…and somehow you are 💯 sure that you are still a Christian….but its hard to memorize Bible verses yet we pitch businesses and remember every single word without referring🙈……

But what I picked is that it is possible to achieve anything you want👊 in life…as long as you have the discpline…. ,It will not be easy though,but you can start with baby steps👣…have a plan 📝stick to it….be accountable to someone👥…be realistic and practical

Where is your biggest struggle😉…Body Fitness?🏋️…Eating health?🥗🍒🍓…. Starting a business?💰….Going back to school?🏘️…. Spiritual growth?🤲….. Getting that skill you have been planning for years? Recording your songs… Writing a book📚… Starting a blog….Or wanting instant results like me 🤦😂….. For those who have mastered the art😊 ,kindly share what has worked for you…how do you manage to live a Discplined life….what are the secrets….

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Get started

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Sometimes we spend a lot of time sitting around thinking about what we would like to do or wishing we could do instead of just doing it. Every time we spend time thinking about whether to do or not to do is another minute or a second passing without doing it..
     The perfect day never comes ,the more we postpone the more the day never comes.I have found myself here so many times.The moment I put something off to come back later chances are that I never do.Taking one step at a time is more valuable than spending a day thinking or talking about it.
    One of the areas that I have discovered I lazy a lot is fitness and the discipline that I have to maintain.Most entrepreneurs who actually survive the grind to the top realize that neglecting their health and fitness is a mistake. Because if you’re not keeping your body healthy, you’re actually wasting time in terms of lost productivity, not to mention quality of life.
    Even if you only make one small step today, this is far more valuable than spending another day thinking about it and talking about it. Little steps add up to a lot over time. Take the little steps. Don’t over do it and don’t stop it.Take breaks when you need to, revisit your steps if you have to, but don’t take too long to get to the next step.
     Don’t start thinking about the process right now,starting is the most important and dont overthink ,just stay focused and do your thinking along the way.It might not be perfect today but you will be one step towards achieving your goal.With time you will get better and gain more experience.
Don’t wait till tomorrow,start now
Watch out for our next Blog;How to survive the grind

Lies we believe

Lies

We think differently ,we come from different backgrounds and this dictates our actions everyday.Every person has their own “Reality” based upon the inner drives.Sometimes have found myself getting caught up in other people’s realities which disorient and disable me in the process.The same realities give us our personal definitions of success and happiness.

Recently I met  a lady who was making a speech about the lies we believe in.She went on to explain how she enjoyed dancing when she was growing up and how she liked it,how the people enjoyed and always invited her to dance in the events and special occasions 

One day she went home to find her whole family waiting to confront her about the dancing that had become like a hobby.They told her that she was embarrassing herself and the family and that the people lied to her that she was a good dancer.She believed them because they were her closest people  and from that day she refused any offer by anyone asking her to dance,later in life she realized her dreams were cut shot at a very tender age

Listening to that story I kept asking myself …How many lies do we believe just because they are coming from the very people that we look up to. How many times do we stop in the middle of the road because someone who is working with their realities told you that you are not going the right direction.How many times do we confront our children to stop an hobby simply because we didn’t do it ourselves 

Part of the reason we continue holding to our beliefs or things that we were told  is that we don’t like being wrong. Once we’ve formed a belief, we tend to look for more evidence to support that belief and to discount contradictory evidence.

I echo the words of Zat Rana who said .Maybe we should start seeing the world like nobody else, ask the kind of questions that nobody else is asking.The questions that generally begin with one word: “Why..

The best part is that we are not all meant to be living in one shared reality.Diversity is dynamic and so like someone said we just need to demonstrate love wherever you go and sometimes love means being silent or walking away.

How can we lighten her load

When women are economically and socially empowered, they become a powerful force for change. In rural areas women are more likely to depend on farming for a livelihood, unfortunately they rarely have access to the resources that would make their work more productive and ease their heavy workload. As a result, it is not just women who are held back, but also their families, their communities and local economies.

Cassava

I met this relatively old mama (a Swahili word to mean woman) in Rabai Kilifi County walking with a load on her head despite the scotching sun, to sell her mihongo (a swahili word meaning Cassava). She had walked several kilometers with just one desire, to meet someone to buy the Cassava so that she could buy food for the family and pay school fees for her grand children. After a long day she is also supposed to go back till the land, fetch firewood and cook. This is something she does on a daily basis for her and her family to survive. Looking at her you would agree with me that, the Labor intensive and time-consuming activities further hinder women’s ability to improve their income-earning potential.

What I loved about her is, she loves what she does and does it with a big smile, the same reason why she goes back to the land to till and harvest more. Unfortunately technology has not reached her, while we enjoy every bit of globalization and technology this woman representing many others in rural areas, still work the old tradition way, with few chances of succeeding. Women play a key role in agriculture and they need support to adapt to the new technologies and to seize emerging opportunities. They are not looking for ways to change what they have done for years but they want partnerships, systems and policies that can favor them to continue doing what they love doing (farming) more efficiently with greater results.

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After a good chat I decided to buy the Cassava from her, am shocked she is selling at a throw away price. She sold me 5 large Cassavas at $0.5.A quick maths will show you that  by the time she finishes selling everything she is carrying on the basket, she will be having close to $4.If you divide that with her 6 family members, it  will translate to $0.6 per day per person. You can almost confirm the UN report http://bit.ly/2vg2SSN that more than 700 million people, or 10% of the world population, still live in extreme poverty surviving on less than US$1.90 a day and majority are living in Sub Saharan Africa.

Assuming there was a value addition in the same Cassava she was carrying, considering that it is a multipurpose crop, drought resistant, with products ranging from coarse flour to high-tech starch gels, the price will go up from $4 to approximately $20, which will give her an opportunity not only to feed her family but also to save to take little children to school, help her big daughters further their education to become more productive in the community and have better  living condition that she had.

These 3 attributes can help you live a balanced life as an entrepreneur

Blog BalanceLately I found out that am gaining some weight, “well it’s not a bad thing to add some extra kgs once in a while”,I keep on telling myself!…But what I am not confronting is that a few things need to change.. hey sounds unconvincing right! As an entrepreneur sometimes you end up having a crazy lifestyle that does not resemble a normal human being. There are days you will find yourself sleeping past midnight and waking up before everyone. There are days instead of taking a vacation to unwind you are thinking of the next project and going for vacation almost feels like wasting resources. There are days you will opt to use public transport rather than investing in a car because you are building an imaginary empire that never materializes.

This kind of lifestyle in the process brings a lot of imbalance, however when you are able to get the right balance, it helps to make you work on the optimal level. While interacting with different successful entrepreneurs I have learned a few tricks that I thought I could share here. While this might not work for everyone, putting into practice one or two might be a game changer in 2020

Wake up early

AlarmWhen you wake up late you feel sluggish ,waste a lot of time trying to figure out what to do. Did you know that by getting up just two hours earlier every single day, you gain 14 more hours in the week and 62 each month? Imagine the kind of progress you can make with that extra time. On the flip side, If you wake up early and use that time incredibly well, it can help you achieve a lot and plan your day .In the process it can help you get a still mind to enhance your spiritual life as well as help you put a positive mindset that increases your mental health. This can also give you time to do some exercise to energize your physical health. For you to achieve this you also need to regulate your sleep, meaning you need to set a specific time when you go to bed.I still struggle with this.

Have Limitations

 I will echo the words of Blaz KosThere is an optimal amount of investment needed for everything we do in life. If we invest more, we’re wasting resources or hurting ourselves. If we invest less than necessary, things don’t go into the direction we want. The big challenge lies in the fact that limits aren’t always in line with our instincts and emotional needs. That’s why we need self-discipline.” He says that…… You may not feel like exercising at all. But because you know all the benefits of exercise, you can decide to exercise at least two times per week. Your may love your work, but to keep long-term productivity, you can set a maximum limit of 50 hours of work per week and a minimum of 40 hours and so on. Your soft limits may be very limited at the beginning. You push but you get tired really fast. Don’t worry, just keep it up. Everything is like a muscle, you build it up with time. It’s better to do something every day, but in smaller quantities, than doing something once a week, trying to compensate and pushing too hard. That is how things accumulate, have been guilty for this for a very long time.

Personal Development 

GrowthPersonal development is about pushing ourselves to try new things, overcome boundaries, and further our understanding. It’s about always achieving the next level of excellency, and being proud of what we are able to do. Every time we learn a new skill, we have an extra string to our bow.According to an article published by Business 2 Community in part it said“the idea of becoming a better person and being happier is seen as some silly activity. But, in reality, we all want this and we resist it because we shy away from personal responsibility.If you were not fortunate enough to grow up around people with mindset directed towards success, personal responsibility and abundance, you are carrying around heaps of stuff that can thwart your professional success and keep you working through the natural fear, doubt and anxiety most of us experience. We can only adopt more empowering beliefs when we make a conscious effort to do so and this requires self-examination, study and finding tools that help us make this mental shift”.

What are you considering changing as we conclude the year 2019…..,do you think a small habit started today can change your entire life in the coming years.You are more than able ,go for it.

You are ready to go organic right! …What no one tells you

OrganicLately some words are flooding the market ,literally causing people to start heated debate on health and how they should take care of themselves ,blinded by the so many go natural,embrace organic products,eat clean phrases,the list is endless causing Panic all over.Organic being one of those words and yes we are almost going  organic everything,I have just been wondering… at what point do we tell the difference between real organic and the fake one,does anyone really take time to tell you. How about those treated with chemicals and pesticides which nobody talks about and we find them all over the stores and supermarkets labeled Organic.I don’t know how many of you have gone through some experience good or bad or have been wondering what to choose from so many options available.

HairRecently I decided to go “organic” on my hair with all the fuss about keeping it natural, I come across some products labeled natural and organic 100% ,forgive my ignorance but with all my excitement of trying things out, I took everything ,from oil to moisturizer to  hair food to spray name them, within a week my hair started falling off.It was a nightmare

The interesting part is that, most people will use organic and natural interchangeably which might not be the case……. From my little understanding “Natural” on a label means that it has no artificial colors, flavors or preservatives right…. .Organic on the other side refers to the methods or materials used to produce the ingredients for example …without the use of toxic persistent pesticides, GMOs, antibiotics, artificial growth hormones and stuff like that.. Imagine getting a combination of the two in a product, hey..you are on a health spree !!…apparently that was not the case with my labeled Organic and natural 100% it was a true meaning of disappointment

I believe we can change the whole narrative, by becoming true to ourselves and others. Be genuine, authentic and  willing to protect our planet.While everyone knows that companies are in business to make money, today’s consumers demand that the brands they buy from embrace a larger purpose.If you prove you are also there not only for profit but for impact, the customers won’t see you as just another business,they will see you as a genuine solution to a need they’ve had all along

By the way am not just talking about health organic products only,to echo Patricia Somers who said ,“when most people think of living organic, they think of food”. This means that you buy foods that are free from fertilizers and pesticides. However, you can live a more organic lifestyle in other ways too. You can use cleaning supplies that are made up of organic products, you can reduce the amount of waste you produce, and by finding ways to travel around without leaving a huge carbon footprint. Put simply, living an organic lifestyle means doing your best to live a healthy lifestyle while also doing your part to take care of the environment.

I wish to review this in near future probably if I get your views on how we can genuinely handle this issue of health,environment,eating clean,going natural yes and before I forget I need to mention Organic  too our buzz word that

 Personal growth best tip to move your life forward

psx_20191118_175336How many times have you felt like you seriously needed to improve on something and become a  better person, but drained by the thought of you not moving ,maybe because of a weakness that keeps coming and showing up every time you are prepared to take off and when you are about to reach your full potential and live a fulfilled life, suddenly Boom!Failure! all the energy goes and suddenly you remember you still have a weakness to work on and the cycle repeats itself…..always trying to improve.

The other day I was working on a project that took forever to see the light of the day….I had this to do……., that to work on…someone to see, somewhere to go …the list is endless. At the end of it all I was disappointed with myself and  felt like I wasn’t disciplined and probably I would have just focused on one thing and leave everything else aside…. So I thought to myself ……What next ?I started wondering ….Well, maybe it’s a weakness I have ,which I need to work on so that I can stay focused and set priorities right. Interestingly  I started working and reading on how to stay disciplined,how to stop procrastinating etc…. but before I finished I realized I still had something else to work on, the cycle didn’t seem to end…..sounds familiar right..

I got into a conversation with my mentor Bindu Krishnan this morning, as usual after our main business agenda was done ,the story of  a weakness that am working on….something I want to improve on….shows up uninvited of course. After listening to me carefully she mentioned something that changed my whole perception about Personal development and growth.She said “Personal development is not focusing on what you do not do well,it’s a waste of time.Focus on your strengths.Use your talents in every aspect of your work and you will see yourself moving”.

She recommended this  book Strengths Finder by Tom Rath  and I thought I share it here so that we can swim against the current, get exposed to ideas that let us expand and refine our guidance system, to avoid  getting stuck with the system of concentrating on improving our weakness that has been handed to us over time and missing to utilize our true and full potential.

 

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